Why You Should Keep Calm

One of the questions I often receive about self defence training is:

How do I react to a verbal confrontation?

My answer:

It depends on the threat level and your training experience but one things for sure…

Don’t get angry!

This is because your adrenaline levels will escalate and likely get you into tunnel vision and impair your judgement on the best course of action in order to neutralise the threat.

People who work in high stress situations like the military, law enforcement, security, paramedics and others are used to this adrenaline response and are able to:

Accept and deal with it to their advantage.

They don’t get angry.

A bit of adrenaline is a good thing though as it heightens your awareness and gives you extra strength and speed for a very short time.

You’ve heard of the “Flight or Fight Response?”

More information for you here:


The downside is this adrenaline rush wears off quickly and then you get the feeling of extreme fatigue.

Back to the people who are used to high stress situations.

They say the best action to take to control this adrenaline surge is to breathe deeply and relax your shoulders.

By doing this you can then act clearly to diffuse the situation verbally whilst implementing a plan if he or she goes physical on you.

Don’t forget to read about alert codes article.


What does the aggressor do when he feels and sees your demeanour?

Well, he or she may question why they have decided to confront you.

Maybe they think that you are a streetwise combat fighter, have backup, have huge confidence in their abilities and so on.

Either way it gets them to potentially think twice before attacking you.

I’m sure that you have come across a lot of cool and calm people so just think back to how you felt witnessing this.

Not saying that you should not use pre-emptive aggressive actions to stop the aggressor.

You need to assess the situation and implement the above strategies to keep safe.

Adrenaline is with us all the time and if we can control it then we become so much more competent.

Most of our training is based on getting the adrenaline going in our warm-ups and then straight into partner drills.

Stay safe.

Shihan Martin Day